Experiences!

At everyday life we come across people who believe that whatever the situation is, it doesn't concern them and things can go on without being change or disturbed. Especially in the Corporate world where there is a cut throat competition, you will find one or two individuals sitting in the office, and acting as if nothing concerns them.  Such people act in a very dismissive way, usually half lying on the seat, their legs spread in front of them  and day dreaming....acting as if something very serious and important is going on in their heads while staring at the Computer while doing little.  These characters also when asked to do some innovative thinking or change the pattern of their work, can start acting like bulls! they do charge on you and then you have to cover your ears because of all the cribbing that will start happening. In my experience, and i have experience such an individual rather recently, the image that come to my mind is that of a man with an iron c...

HR is still a baby in Pakistan and there are still many organizations where HR is just 2, 3 years old. Keeping in mind this scenario HR is more or less considered as a clinical therapy department, providing psycho analysis and doing cosmetic surgeries….however that’s not what HR is meant to be.  From what little exposure I have received in the last 7years, one thing that I found in a   local concern, is that “HR’s work is not important”, “What HR is doing can be done by anyone in the Company”, “If you want to cut down Manpower, start from the HR Department”. Yet despite so much frustration felt by the HR people, a rising hope exist now ensuring a changing role of HR. HR initially was considered more like a “Post Office” for the business function of the Organization. Now with a growing realization by the CEOs and managements towards the need to have a strong HR in order to have a healthy organization; has given HR more room to grow and develop. Now we fi...

We all tend to make mistakes again ‘n’ again from the things that we should have done to the things we shouldn’t have bought….hence, at every turn there is a mistake waiting to happen. Remember the English text we all studied in college. It was captioned something like “The Day the Dam Broke”. It was all about a misunderstanding cause by confusion between ‘damn’ and ‘dam’. The conclusion is we act on what we perceive than what actually is! Interestingly every mistake from a plane crash to a wrong meal order, all is attributed to human error and once the human error comes in to picture, all investigations into the probable cause are stopped! We forget to find the actual cause and blame everything on human error. The real question is to figure out why it all happens? What triggers these mistakes. Do you know that right handed people always prefer the right hand route and vice versa? Do you know that while attempting Multiple-choice questions people usually have doub...

The other day, in one of the marts…I was buying vegetables. On the shelf where the tomatoes were placed, there was a group of three selecting tomatoes out of the bunch. I went up to that corner and started placing tomatoes in the cart. While doing that I realized that no one was paying attention to the bottom half of the shelf where there were good tomatoes. Everyone was focused at the far end of the shelf, stretching hands, pushing others, picking the wrong ones and then sorting again. While such good, red tomatoes were lying very close to us. Then it stuck me that in the same way we ignore so many good things close to us and just worry about what lies ahead or what we can’t have easily then what is ours to have. So much we come across daily, little things that happen all the time…and we just ignore them because we are too busy thinking about things that are not with us, that we want to have! What a way to treat life! Everyday, God place good things in our path and...

We often see ourselves surrounded in issues and we jump to certain conclusions. Without thinking much and with no in depth analysis of the reason and cause of our dilemma and the implications related to the path we are about to take; we set the wheels in motion. But once we are about to accomplish what we set out to do, shadows of doubt start seeping into our perceptions. And believe it or not the more we discuss and share our doubts the more confuse we become. With every discussion shadows of doubt and confusion strengthen more. Its amazing to see how we started off, how sure we were and how confuse we are now! It’s important to understand the dynamics of decision making. Why I use the term dynamics, is because we are not the only one responsible for our decisions. In a Pakistani society, your parents, siblings and even your extended family members show a considerable influence on your decisions. And like it or not most of the decisions are not made because they are rationa...

Sometimes you learn things that you never thought to learn. In these things some are amazing and take you on a journey of discovering your own self and the power that lies within you. I recently went through such a journey…a journey of love! By love I don’t mean the love as in ‘Romeo and Juliet’ only, but much more than that. Being Muslim we strongly believe that Allah created everything with love, and love is the only power that holds us together and keep us going. I never knew that all I have accomplished in life so far is because of the love I have received and the love I have for others, my family, my soul mate, my work and life in general. They all have given me so much, made me what I am today, have given me strength and passion to live to the fullest. If I traced my life backwards, all that I see and can conclude is that though there has been a healthy share of grief and pain, of betrayal and heartbreaks but I have managed to survive all cause I was given so much l...

How anger hurts? Not others but yourself as well. You loose all, your loved ones, relationships and care. Anger is termite that chews its way up the tree of relationship. I have seen people, great, amazing people getting angry very quickly with slightest of triggers. I am sure you all have heard the saying: "Don't be like someone who starts in anger and sit down with a loss" if  you know this old adage then you must also realize what it means. Believe me you can not hurt anyone more than the person who loves you as they are more vulnerable and more exposed! You actually know when and where to hit. Love is an amazing medicine that heals all and gives a person the courage to stand for the right things, do good and spread happiness among all, where as, anger only creates more anger with a dressing of hurt and pain to go with it. What a person can do to control his / her anger? Whenever you get angry think all the good things that happen to you, how another person love...